Thoughts on ShotDate

Like everything else in my life, I hate being unprepared. It's as if I didn't give my all, and I don't like the feeling that I left one tiny detail not carefully planned nor thought of. What can I say, I'm neurotic that way :P Which is why even for shotdate, I made sure that all our plans were straightened out--where to have dinner first, what to wear, where to have my hair and nails done, etc etc... without looking as if I tried too hard (okay, maybe that didn't work! subtlety is not my field of expertise...haha)

Going to shotdate was terrifying, because I rarely go out on real dates. But I decided to go because 1) drew was my friend 2) i wanted to experience it. one more thing to cross off my things-to-do-before-i-die list. With no expectations and with little practice (yes, we did some rounds of pseudo questions!) we trudged on and went inside Grilla.

I was praning about being overdressed, but what-the-hell, basta I loved my curls and my LBD :-) The guys were ok, but no one really caught my eye... (ok, so maybe there was one. But I'll take that secret to the grave! harhar!) So I checked them all as friends. Seriously, I'd love to be friends with some of them--they seem so much fun to hang out with. But no sparks unfortunately. Even with Javi, who unfortunately did not go to my station (I wonder why.. nagtatago ata! hahaha)

Got an award though: "The Girl Guys Would Like to Be Just Friends With". Ouch. But it was ok in the end. In retrospect, that's really who I am, just a friend. I'm the friend guys turn to for advice about their girlfriends, or a spontaneous movie date, or just someone to pass the time with. I think I'm just a better friend than girlfriend material. Which means that it may take me longer to find that "one perfect guy", no matter if I wear a new dress or try to be more feminine or to be exactly what guys are looking for (which is actually impossible). All I can really be is myself. So, I'll just try to be the best version of that.

As this certain article goes, "That's why we always tell people looking for love to wait for that "I won the lottery" feeling -- wait, wait, wait! Don't read articles about how to trap, seduce or hypnotize a mate. Don't worry about your lipstick or your height, because it is not going to matter. Just live your life well, take care of yourself, and don't mope too much. Love will find you." Amen.

Will I recommend friends to go on a speed date? Yes, if merely for the experience. Because if they may not discover that perfect match in a moment, more importantly, they may discover something surprising about their own selves as well.